One of the most helpful lessons I learned in my life is to not be emotionally attached to the outcome of my efforts. I know you just read the last line here but did you comprehend it? Think about that! What would it mean to you in your life if you could give it all you’ve got and then let it go?
When this idea was first presented to me I began working to incorporate it into my life; I recall it acting as a great filter and being very effective in helping me to let go of stress. An example of the application of this executive coaching concept in my life played out like this:
It had been an extremely long day in real estate. I was working on a transaction that had been very difficult to put together. Things had been touch and go with this deal for the past several days. This transaction stood to Net me about $12,000 and it was during a time that I could really use the income. That evening I was watching the Yankees play and hanging the clothes that had accumulated in the chair in the corner of my bedroom all week when I realized my gut was in knots. I was really worried about this deal falling! I asked myself this question:
Have you done all you can do to make this thing go?
The answer was NO! I could send one more email offering one final perspective in the negotiation. I immediately dropped the clothes I was hanging, went to my office and sent the email. As I entered back into my bedroom, turned the game back on and started again hanging the clothes my mind was at peace. There was an over-riding feeling that was speaking to me saying:
“You’ve done your best; now forget the rest.”
Now in my daily efforts; I have with me a great sense of peace no matter what it is I am in the midst of. After all I can do, I let it go and expect great things! I hope you can too.
Onward & Upward My Friends, Lisa
“Where your focus goes, your energy flows”… Walt Emerson. I have experimented on his words and can attest they are true! Could this be the reason we seem to be short of energy most days? Because it is constantly flowing out of us in a million different directions?
I believe that we as women are constantly receiving the subtle message that more is required from us. In many cases we are managing the finances, have primary responsibility for the care and nurture of the children, planning the family vacations, keeping the house, doing the laundry, the grocery shopping, tending the pets, preparing the meals, the yard work and in some cases even running a home based business!
When is enough ever enough? When we recognize and mobilize our own inner voice that’s when! Now I’m not talking about selfishness; I’m talking about high levels of achievement on your own terms!
Everyone’s definition of success is different. To some it may be becoming a New York Times best-selling author. To someone else it may be being a good mother. To yet another it may be living an authentic life or being a good daughter to aging parents.
My definition of success is achieving your goals (whatever they may be) on your own terms with an authentic expression of who you are. With so many voices talking to us; it is sometimes hard to hear the most important one… the one who really does have all the answers… our own voice!
It is possible to live a joyful energetic life; counter balancing the myriad of responsibilities we have. We can even make more money in our businesses if we choose to!
The secret is living a life by design! A life YOU design and that’s what igniting your personal power is all about!
I’m sharing my journey and the way I achieved my life by design at the upcoming Interactive Women’s Conference at Boise Centre on the Grove, May 11, 2013. Boise Idaho. I hope to meet you there!
Until then, Onward & Upward My Friends! Lisa
Fulfilling an entrepreneur or sales position of any kind is no easy task. Half the battle is knowing what your tasks are! Having a great plan is not enough. You’ve got to have a great plan and work that great plan consistently every day!
Last week I found myself completely derailed on one of my health goals. As I talk with my coach I discovered that when I began I had that goal tied to a purpose. During that time I did great! Once the purpose was removed I let up on the committment, pulled out of the process, starting beating my head up against a wall and wondering why I needed so much “will-power” to get it done! We all know “will-power” will get you going but it won’t keep you going. In order to get realigned with my health goal I had to put another purpose in place… another BIG WHY for Lisa! Once that was done; I am happy to say committment has once again taken over and I’m back on track.
Many of you know I firmly believe coaching. Coaching others & receiving coaching from others. Currently I am receiving coaching in the following areas: Health, Speaking, Writing, Sales and even coaching on being a great coach. My “coaching” coach is a world-class coach, Mr. Ed DeCosta. Here is what he ask the other day:
“What do you need, a carrot, a stick or a drill sergeant?” After my recent experience with my health coach I’ve learned I NEED A CARROT!
What do you need to be impeccable with your word, to honor your daily agenda and to work your great plan consistently? I would appreciate hearing your experiences.
Onward & Upward My Friends, Lisa
This may seem like a little lesson but it has the power to change your life.
As many of you remember one of my goals in my 2013 Productivity Challenge is to work out for one hour a day. I was doing GREAT! I hadn’t missed a day and was well on my way to a much healthier lifestyle. I couldn’t believe it… the girl who had always hated working out was loving it! I was even asked if I was a junkie by a TRUE JUNKIE! It was bliss! But then… I got a bad cold and my health coach asked me to not work out for an entire week.
So with two weeks off I was given the green light to get back at it. But did I? NO! Why? I had higher priorities. My work outs were no longer tied to a higher purpose and I had lost my committment. My inner voice was now saying: “See you don’t need to work every day to feel better. You feel fine. You might not feel as good as you were feeling but you don’t feel terrible.” And on it went.
So yesterday I had to start all over. As I was headed to the gym I remembered a comment from one of my readers that made so much sense to me. They said:
“Will-power gets you started and committment keeps you going.”
I can now tell you first hand… they are right!
Thanks for all your support. Onward & Upward My Friends, Lisa