The Scourge of Adonis Adaptation

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Happiness mind-map

Happiness mind-map

Have you ever looked closely at the anatomy of the word “behave?”  It is “Be & Have.”  It could be considered a universal truth that it is in the nature of all humans to seek to be more and have more.  In the psychological world they claim that as we become more and acquire more we adjust to our higher level of “being and having,” thus it becomes a “relative state” and we continue to seek more.  This human behavior is so prevalent they have even given it a name… Adonis Adaptation.  Sadly, what is more interesting is researchers have dubbed Adonis Adaptation as the main enemy of happiness.

So what then is happiness?  If achieving, acquiring and having more won’t obtain and sustain it, what will?  And why is happiness so important?  We could talk about that for the rest of our lives but in short, and as it applies to productivity in the work place,  employers want happy people!  Why?  They can teach the job, the skill set, the culture but they can’t teach attitude… they can’t teach happiness!  Happiness just makes everything more fun, it brings more positive energy, breeds momentum and builds strong culture!

In my short 48 years on this planet I have come to the determination that in order to obtain and sustain the highest levels of happiness we must behave ourselves.  It’s that simple.  Positive self leadership is the key.  It is not hard to do once you identify the things you truly value.  Once identified, become intentional around them.  Live close to that value system, honor it and manifest externally who you are becoming internally.  If, as you take inventory of yourself you find that there are areas that are out of alignment; don’t beat yourself up, just resolve to make the necessary changes to get back into alignment.   Life really can change on a dime.

It is a good cause to embark upon, after all, everything really does rise and fall on leadership and your legacy will be determined by who you were; not just what you knew.

Onward & Upward My Friends, Lisa

What Would It Mean In YOUR Life If You Could Do This Too?

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One of the most helpful lessons I learned in my life is to not be emotionally attached to the outcome of my efforts. I know you just read the last line here but did you comprehend it? Think about that!  What would it mean to you in your life if you could give it all you’ve got and then let it go?Health

When this idea was first presented to me I began working to incorporate it into my life; I recall it acting as a great filter and being very effective in helping me to let go of stress.  An example of the application of this executive coaching concept in my life played out like this:

It had been an extremely long day in real estate.  I was working on a transaction that had been very difficult to put together.  Things had been touch and go with this deal for the past several days.  This transaction stood to Net me about $12,000 and it was during a time that I could really use the income.  That evening I was watching the Yankees play and hanging the clothes that had accumulated in the chair in the corner of my bedroom all week when I realized my gut was in knots.  I was really worried about this deal falling!  I asked myself this question:

Have you done all you can do to make this thing go? 

The answer was NO!  I could send one more email offering one final perspective in the negotiation.  I immediately dropped the clothes I was hanging, went to my office and sent the email.  As I entered back into my bedroom, turned the game back on and started again hanging the clothes my mind was at peace.  There was an over-riding feeling that was speaking to me saying:

“You’ve done your best; now forget the rest.”

Now in my daily efforts; I have with me a great sense of peace no matter what it is I am in the midst of.  After all I can do, I let it go and expect great things!  I hope you can too.

Onward & Upward My Friends, Lisa

 

 

Ignite Your Personal Power!

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Where your focus goes, your energy flows”… Walt Emerson.  I have experimented on his words and can attest they are true!  Could this be the reason we seem to be short of energy most days?  Because it is constantly flowing out of us in a million different directions?  personal power

I believe that we as women are constantly receiving the subtle message that more is required from us.  In many cases we are managing the finances, have primary responsibility for the care and nurture of the children, planning the family vacations, keeping the house, doing the laundry, the grocery shopping, tending the pets, preparing the meals, the yard work and in some cases even running a home based business!

When is enough ever enough?  When we recognize and mobilize our own inner voice that’s when!  Now I’m not talking about selfishness; I’m talking about high levels of achievement on your own terms!

Everyone’s definition of success is different. To some it may be becoming a New York Times best-selling author.  To someone else it may be being a good mother.  To yet another it may be living an authentic life or being a good daughter to aging parents.

My definition of success is achieving your goals (whatever they may be) on your own terms with an authentic expression of who you are.  With so many voices talking to us; it is sometimes hard to hear the most important one… the one who really does have all the answers… our own voice!

It is possible to live a joyful energetic life; counter balancing the myriad of responsibilities we have.  We can even make more money in our businesses if we choose to!

The secret is living a life by design!  A life YOU design and that’s what igniting your personal power is all about!

I’m sharing my journey and the way I achieved my life by design at the upcoming Interactive Women’s Conference at Boise Centre on the Grove, May 11, 2013.  Boise Idaho.  I hope to meet you there!

Until then, Onward & Upward My Friends!  Lisa

Productivity Rule #10

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No matter what else we do; without perseverance it simply won’t have mattered in the end.  Eperserverenceach time I have had the opportunity to work with or interview individuals, who have succeeded at the highest levels in their professions, I always ask them one important question.  “What do you most attribute today’s success to?”  Without fail perseverance is among their top contributors.
Jim Rohn has been a great influence in my life.  Of the many words of wisdom he offers these are two I place great focus upon.  He says:
“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you, will always be far greater value than what you get.”
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“Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom.”
“You are the only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life.”  If we have gone through the laborious work of the other 9 Productivity Rules to Spark our Engagement & Ignite our personal power then making perseverance our capstone will insure the realization of our deepest desires.
I will!  I hope you will too!
Onward & Upward My Friends,  Lisa

Productivity Rule #9

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Does anyone ever do anything great alone? The Law Of The Inner Circle, in The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, claims our potential is determined by those closest to us. As I reflect on any past successes I have enjoyed, truly they were because of the people who have come along side and helped me get there. Achieving greatness in your organization takes a village.  So how do you find your village?  You don’t!  You will have to create it!Networking

It is commonly known that we attract who we are.  “Birds of a feather flock together.”  So the first obvious thing to do is to take inventory of your life; make any course corrections you need to in order to become the type of person you desire to attract.  Many people see this as a process, I however, believe it can also be an event when and if you have the right “why” behind it.  (I call this “getting your mind right.”)

Once you have gotten your mind right, have a vision of who you are, what you do and who your target audience is just go out and make friends!  Show up everywhere your target audience will be.  Remember “birds of a feather…”

Seek to build relationships with those who add value to the lives of others.  They will also add value to you.  Seek to serve those whom you want to work with.  Look for ways you can add value to their lives and focus on follow-up.  If you make a committment, keep that committment.  It will say a lot about who you are.

Seek relationships also with people whose strengths are in areas of your weakness.  They will bring huge value to you and help you get where you desire to go so much faster and more efficiently than you ever imagined possible.  Chances are your strengths will add great value to them as well.

If you have taken the time to align your actions with your values, get clear on your message and have prepared to deliver a world-class product or service then get out there and network!  The opportunity is on its way!  Remember what they say:

“Luck = Opportunity & Preparation Meeting!”

Onward & Upward My Friends, Lisa

A Carrot, A Stick or A Drill Sergeant?

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Fulfilling an entrepreneur or sales position of any kind is no easy task.  Half the battle is knowing what your tasks are!  Having a great plan is not enough.  You’ve got to have a great plan and work that great plan consistently every day!mm-drill-sgt_132376c

Last week I found myself completely derailed on one of my health goals.  As I  talk with my coach I discovered that when I began I had that goal tied to a purpose. During that time I did great!  Once the purpose was removed I let up on the committment, pulled out of the process, starting beating my head up against a wall and wondering why I needed so much “will-power” to get it done!  We all know “will-power” will get you going but it won’t keep you going.  In order to get realigned with my health goal I had to put another purpose in place… another BIG WHY for Lisa!  Once that was done; I am happy to say committment has once again taken over and I’m back on track.

Many of you know I firmly believe coaching.  Coaching others & receiving coaching from others.  Currently I am receiving coaching in the following areas:  Health, Speaking, Writing, Sales and even coaching on being a great coach.  My “coaching” coach is a world-class coach, Mr. Ed DeCosta.   Here is what he ask the other day:

“What do you need, a carrot, a stick or a drill sergeant?”  After my recent experience with my health coach I’ve learned I NEED A CARROT!

What do you need to be impeccable with your word, to honor your daily agenda and to work your great plan consistently?  I would appreciate hearing your experiences.

Onward & Upward My Friends,  Lisa

 

 

 

Who Are You? Really… Do YOU even know?

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Having grown up in an environment that was not conducive to the development of a positive self-image or self-esteem; I understand first hand the importance of both.  Self Image and Self-Esteem are often considered one in the same when in fact they are two very different concepts. Self Image is how you view yourself.  Self esteem is how you feel about yourself.  It is possible to view yourself in a positive way; being aware of your talents and abilities but to feel negatively about your worthiness, integrity or capacity.

A negative self-image or esteem will stop us dead in our tracks when striving for any level of achievement.  When asked, employers state what they are most seeking are individuals who are capable, confident and good with people.  A positive self-image and self-esteem are the corner-stone of both.

I love this video starring a lead character “Marcel” who has both a positive self-image and self-esteem.  I have shared it with every teenager I know and many friends who sometimes struggle with a negative view or opinion of themselves.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VF9-sEbqDvU

What a great message she sends when she says “compared to what?”

All throughout my childhood I never felt very loveable or capable.  As I grew up I started to question where some of my beliefs about myself had come from.  What I discovered was: Not only could I not prove my beliefs about myself but I could disprove them!  I went from an insecure, disengaged young woman to a confident go-getter almost in the blink of an eye!

What that experience taught me is you are what you think you are!  You can achieve or not achieve whatever you think you can.

If you are in a place seeking to expand your level of awareness and create a new reality for yourself (as I did) ask yourself these questions:

1.  What do I believe about myself?  Write it down.

2.  Where did that believe come from?

3.  Is it true?  (PROVE IT)  You will be surprised how often you can’t!

4.  Once you cannot prove it; disprove it… then replace the old story with a new belief and anchor that belief with proof.  You’ll be surprised how easy it will be.

It is possible to change your story, but only you can.  I know!  I changed mine!

Onward & Upward My Friends, Lisa